HOW TO GET OVER HER
We go back to the same people time after time because we think there’s nothing better out there in the world for us. We stay loyal to people who play with our hearts.
Each time she leaves, you spend your evenings staring at the open door, waiting for her to walk back in again. Your pillows and sheets fall around the shape of her ghost.
This is where you start to shed. This is where you start to molt. This is where you outgrow all the parts of your soul that she touched.
Because first love will not be the only love. No love will be able to replicate this love, but each love will be different in a better way. You will grow, you will change. You will not be the same person you are today. With each love, you will learn how to love better.
This is the part where you learn to love yourself. No love is a substitute for self-love. This is the part where you unravel. You tuck all her skin cells, strands of hair, and sweaters that she left behind into a box. And you burn. You burn it all.
You use the ashes to fertilize a garden and you pour your soul into something that can love you back. You wait for the rain to clear out your pain.
Because this is just a season. We have to shed our leaves in fall and we think we’re supposed to be dead by winter when all the life goes into hiding. But life is not made up of one season.
This is the part where you find new things about life to fall in love with. This is the part where you relearn what it’s like to live again. Life goes on whether we’re in love or not.
Most importantly, let go of the things that make you heavy.